How do you speak to yourself when no-one else is listening?

For many of us, the mirror feels like a place of judgement. But what if it could become a space of kindness where we offer ourselves reassurance, self-love, and encouragement?

Let’s start a new ritual together: one where we say one kind thing to ourselves to the mirror, every day.

What is mirror work?

Mirror work is a self-help practice where you talk to yourself in the mirror, often repeating positive affirmations. The purpose of this technique is to improve self-esteem and deepen your connection with yourself.

By verbally affirming your value and worth to your mirror, this helps you internalise those beliefs.

Here’s how to start exploring mirror work:

  • Get yourself comfortable in front of a mirror of your choice. You can even do this during your skincare routine if you’re short on time.
  • Look into your eyes, not just your face.
  • Take a moment to look at yourself, without judgement. If this is too much for you right now, try this again another time.
  • Choose a few phrases that speak to you (or create your own). Be present in the moment when you speak these affirmations and try different ones to see how they feel.
  • Try and incorporate this into your daily routine, even if you only set aside a few minutes.
  • Reflect on your experience and make any adjustments as needed. What resonated with you? What didn’t? How did you feel before, during and after?
  • Be kind to yourself! This is a journey, so be patient as you explore this practice.

Why mirror work helps:

  • Positive self-talk in front of a mirror using tools like affirmations can increase self-esteem because you’re replacing old, critical scripts with affirming ones.
  • It can also help deepen self-reflection and help you to understand your thoughts and emotions, allow you to notice patterns in your emotions and responses.
  • Mirror work can also help improve your communication and build up your confidence
  • Using compassionate self-talk can help you manage your stress and anxiety.
  • It can be very self-soothing too.

Here are some mirror talk affirmations to start withsay something kind to the mirror, mirror work

  • I like you; I love you, and you’re okay just the way you are.
  • I am doing better than I think
  • I believe in myself
  • My potential is unlimited
  • I am enough
  • I am confident
  • I choose to be happy and love myself

Speak like you’re talking to someone you love and interrupt that inner critic.

Wow Tip: Keep a sticky note on the mirror with the kind phrases on them for the days you forget.

Want to make it more of a sensorial experience? Pair it with calming music, scent or even a gentle breathwork.

When we speak to ourselves with compassion and love, we’re meeting ourselves with kindness. So tomorrow, before the morning rush, pause, smile, and say something kind to the person looking back at you.

Article by Jessica Reid